This is a very personal post for me. Maybe one of the most personal I'll ever share, as being a step-parent is at times, one of the most difficult things.
I received some valuable lessons this morning, as I had another needed healing session for myself. I have been having a particularly challenging time being a step mom of a teenager recently. It finally came to a point where I know something has to change, and we can't go on this way any longer. I have a few disciplining ideas that I think will help that relationship, as well as the relationships with all of my other children, BUT I think the lesson I received this morning will be even more valuable. I share it so that I remember to treat it with importance, and also in hopes that it may help some other step parent out in the world somewhere.
At the beginning of my marriage, my cute little step child had a hard time dealing with sharing his Dad. His parents had always been divorced in his memory, and whenever he was with his Dad, it was HIS special time (with a few exceptions.) Naturally, when I came into the picture, this little five year old was trying to find his place and always wanted to cuddle with his Dad, and sit by his Dad, etc. If you have ever been a newlywed, you probably remember, you're sort of glued to each other, and you want to stay that way. I think from those early days some minor, sub-conscious, jealousy started to form in both of us. We both wanted Dad's love and attention exclusively.
I think that's enough background. That was almost 10 years ago. Some experiences have fueled that jealousy continuing on, while others have made it dissolve again, at least a little. Still at times I have felt like (through no fault of theirs) it was me against them.....that I was separate from their little thing they have going on. Sometimes I feel like that child gets way too much extra special attention from his Dad, compared to the other children. I could go into both sides of why they should or shouldn't have their own little thing, but that's not where I'm going with this. I just share those feelings because, I'm hoping to validate someone, and help them feel like others know where they are coming from.
This morning I prayed and tuned into my own feelings and asked the spirit and Christ to guide me in replacing my negative beliefs that are affecting this relationship that needs healing. Among other things, the spirit told me that I need to care more about this child's love tank being filled, than my own. I need to care more about him receiving enough love and assurance, than I care about me receiving enough. It occurs to me that I think parents naturally care more about the well being of their children, and their children feeling loved, than they care about themselves. That is the divine love that Elder Holland spoke of in General Conference today. (link) For this particular child, maybe like most step-child/parent relationships, I need to make a conscious effort to put his needs before my own. I need to let him have as much love and attention from his Dad as he needs, even if I'm feeling a little left out or depleted. I can refill at a different time.
I'm reading a book right now by Nicholeen Peck called, A House United. The author and her family have helped many, many foster children. She even seeks out foster children with problems like lying and stealing so that she can help them. One day she realized why she was having such a hard time with one of these teenagers. She says, "'I was so worried and frustrated by the inconvenient behaviors, I wasn't allowing myself to love this sweet girl.....I decided to love her more than treat her behaviors."'
She goes onto say that she received some great advice from a woman who had long since raised her children. One of those children had gone wildly against her parent's teachings and beliefs with her life-style choices and had since returned and become a very spiritual and disciplined person. Nicholeen says, "I asked this wise woman, 'How did you change your child from a life course heading for disaster to a life course heading for success?'"
" She said, 'I loved her. No matter what she did, I loved her. I didn't agree with her, but I made sure I always felt I loved her. If I felt it, she would feel it too."' (p104)
These are the things I will be praying for. The strength to apply all of this God given knowledge and turn it into wisdom. The love of God in my heart for this child, so that He can feel it, because he knows when I am feeling love for him, and when I'm not, and that effects our relationship. I will be praying for the ability to care about him and his well-being more than I care about my own.
Saturday, October 3, 2015
Monday, September 28, 2015
A Pure Heart
(This post doesn't specifically mention anything about the 4th chakra, but it all directly relates.)
There are so many great scriptures about a pure heart. I've been thinking a little bit about receiving "pure and virtuous principles," and how it effects our heart and being when we receive things from the world that are not pure and virtuous.
Sometimes we take things to heart that we ought not to. We may allow someone's negative perception of us to make us feel bad about ourselves. We may let the worlds perception of beauty effect our self-esteem and feelings of self worth. A pure heart gives others the benefit of the doubt and even prays for those that hurt us, because of the pain or hurt that must be causing them to lash out. A pure heart is not a hard heart. It is open, and loving, and at peace.
If all we received into our hearts were pure and virtuous thoughts and feelings, how would that feel? I had a feeling, in the temple, of the rest that would give to my soul and spirit. It felt as though my spirit was tired.; tired of fighting against all of the things around me in the world that were impure. What beauty, and peace, and rest, to have a safe space inside your heart that is pure, undefiled, and unaffected by all of the filth and ugliness that is in the world.
Purity. What a beautiful word. Like holiness and charity. May the Lord bless us to keep the world out of our hearts and minds and become more pure, so that from that space we can love ourselves and others more freely, with the pure love of Christ....so that we will recognize God's face, his signature, in all that is around us. May he so change and strengthen us, so that we can become his instruments on the earth.
Alma 5:19
19 I say unto you, can ye look up to God at that day with a pure heart and clean hands? I say unto you, can you look up, having the image of God engraven upon your countenances?
1 Timothy 1:5
Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned:
Matthew 5:8
Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
There are so many great scriptures about a pure heart. I've been thinking a little bit about receiving "pure and virtuous principles," and how it effects our heart and being when we receive things from the world that are not pure and virtuous.
Sometimes we take things to heart that we ought not to. We may allow someone's negative perception of us to make us feel bad about ourselves. We may let the worlds perception of beauty effect our self-esteem and feelings of self worth. A pure heart gives others the benefit of the doubt and even prays for those that hurt us, because of the pain or hurt that must be causing them to lash out. A pure heart is not a hard heart. It is open, and loving, and at peace.
If all we received into our hearts were pure and virtuous thoughts and feelings, how would that feel? I had a feeling, in the temple, of the rest that would give to my soul and spirit. It felt as though my spirit was tired.; tired of fighting against all of the things around me in the world that were impure. What beauty, and peace, and rest, to have a safe space inside your heart that is pure, undefiled, and unaffected by all of the filth and ugliness that is in the world.
Purity. What a beautiful word. Like holiness and charity. May the Lord bless us to keep the world out of our hearts and minds and become more pure, so that from that space we can love ourselves and others more freely, with the pure love of Christ....so that we will recognize God's face, his signature, in all that is around us. May he so change and strengthen us, so that we can become his instruments on the earth.
Alma 5:19
19 I say unto you, can ye look up to God at that day with a pure heart and clean hands? I say unto you, can you look up, having the image of God engraven upon your countenances?
1 Timothy 1:5
Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned:
Matthew 5:8
Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
Sunday, September 27, 2015
The 5th Chakra
The fifth chakra is located in your throat center. The associated color and vibration is blue. When your fifth chakra is in balance you speak your truth clearly, and easily, without hesitation or fear of how it will be received. The fifth chakra relates to communication, self-expression
Your truth is not necessarily your feelings. If you are feeling angry and contentious and you express that freely, that will be detrimental to your fifth chakra. If you yell or express anger frequently, you likely have a weakened fifth chakra. That doesn't mean to repress those feelings. It just means it would be more healthy to spend some time with them until you find a more constructive way to express them. Jesus says He is the way, the truth, and the life. When you express Christlike truth, THAT puts your fifth chakra into balance.
Another way we weaken our fifth chakra is by not speaking up. This image comes to mind. :)
If we hold in thoughts and feelings that are important to us, that blocks up the energy flow in our fifth chakra. The throat chakra can also be related to personal expression in the way of creativity.
The previous post (found here) addresses a personal experience that I have had with my fifth chakra. I want to share another experience I've had. Quite a while back, I did some energy work on a woman I had not met before. I felt a large tear in her energy field at her fifth chakra. I felt that the tear was there because of strong anger being expressed regularly and that negative spirit entities were using that tear to enter her space and further influence her. (If you didn't think I was crazy before, maybe you think so now ;)) This is one example of why it is important to keep our energy fields fortified.
We can't be perfect, but we can perfectly use the atonement. If you yell and express anger, apologize, and pray to your Heavenly Father to heal the effects of that anger on yourself and others through the power of the atonement. Work on it. This is something I know I need to work on. If you want extra inspiration for not yelling checkout THIS site. This week I will be setting and tracking a goal to not yell. I know I won't be perfect, but I will start over, until I can get 28 days in a row. Wish me luck!
I know this is getting long, but I have one more great thing to share. Some tips from here on how to re-align your 5th chakra. These have self-expression all over them.
1. Use your voice (sing, hum, chant, whistle)
2. yawn, scream, laugh, etc
3. Pick up a musical insturament
4. Play some music that makes you move
5. Journal
6. Find some inner stillness
7. Fast
8. Deep breathing
Your truth is not necessarily your feelings. If you are feeling angry and contentious and you express that freely, that will be detrimental to your fifth chakra. If you yell or express anger frequently, you likely have a weakened fifth chakra. That doesn't mean to repress those feelings. It just means it would be more healthy to spend some time with them until you find a more constructive way to express them. Jesus says He is the way, the truth, and the life. When you express Christlike truth, THAT puts your fifth chakra into balance.
Another way we weaken our fifth chakra is by not speaking up. This image comes to mind. :)
Here are some related questions I found on THIS website:
Are you keeping things to yourself?
Are you afraid/worried about speaking out?
Do you feel your opinions can not be voiced?
Do you feel that you are not being true to yourself?
Are you afraid of the truth?
Are you afraid of speaking the truth?
Do you have something to say, but not sure how to say it?
Are you having trouble doing something you want to do?
The previous post (found here) addresses a personal experience that I have had with my fifth chakra. I want to share another experience I've had. Quite a while back, I did some energy work on a woman I had not met before. I felt a large tear in her energy field at her fifth chakra. I felt that the tear was there because of strong anger being expressed regularly and that negative spirit entities were using that tear to enter her space and further influence her. (If you didn't think I was crazy before, maybe you think so now ;)) This is one example of why it is important to keep our energy fields fortified.
We can't be perfect, but we can perfectly use the atonement. If you yell and express anger, apologize, and pray to your Heavenly Father to heal the effects of that anger on yourself and others through the power of the atonement. Work on it. This is something I know I need to work on. If you want extra inspiration for not yelling checkout THIS site. This week I will be setting and tracking a goal to not yell. I know I won't be perfect, but I will start over, until I can get 28 days in a row. Wish me luck!
I know this is getting long, but I have one more great thing to share. Some tips from here on how to re-align your 5th chakra. These have self-expression all over them.
1. Use your voice (sing, hum, chant, whistle)
2. yawn, scream, laugh, etc
3. Pick up a musical insturament
4. Play some music that makes you move
5. Journal
6. Find some inner stillness
7. Fast
8. Deep breathing
Monday, June 8, 2015
Grace Replaces Guilt- A Session For Myself
I have had a killer sore throat for days. This morning I finally tuned in to the healing energies of Christ and Heavenly Father to try to help my throat heal and be comforted. In doing so they taught me what spiritual things had weakened that area of my body physically and helped me to see how to allow Christ to heal me.
My throat has been weakened recently from lots of yelling and anger at my children. I always struggle with this, but as of late I have been doing pretty consistently worse than usual. There are usually a lot more "up days" than there have been for a while. This is one of my struggles and weaknesses in life. When I tuned in to Heavenly Father, then came back into myself, I felt spiritual/emotional weakness in my throat and my heart.
Heavenly Father let me know that I indeed had weakened my 5th chakra/ throat area from communicating with a lot of anger and yelling. This was so weakening for multiple reasons. For one, anger is anger, and it is a harsh emotion to transfer consistently, and two, it wasn't MY voice. I was communicating the ugly voice of entities in and around me, rather than my own. MY voice would never want to treat my children like that. I love them unconditionally. (At least I think, feel, and hope I do!)
But beyond those two reasons for the weakened immune system and susceptibility in my throat and heart, was another negative emotion. Guilt. I was told I needed to forgive myself for these behaviors. Even as I TRIED to forgive myself, my thoughts said, "but it's NOT okay." I feel so sad -often- that I would ever treat my children like that. I WANT to be a perfect mom. I DON'T WANT to ever hurt them or sadden their spirits. Heavenly Father had to remind me what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is not saying, what you did was okay. Forgiveness is saying, I understand that you have weaknesses, that you are mortal and imperfect, and that you are here to learn and work on those things. I forgive you because I have weaknesses too, and I know they are not easy to overcome. I am not meant to be perfect yet. I am meant to learn, one mistake at a time, to perfectly turn to Christ so that He can lift me.
I felt Heavenly Father say, "replace the guilt with grace." I felt a light pink cloud of comforting grace come in to comfort my physical and emotional body. As I handed my guilt to Christ, he offered me His grace and whispered, "this is why I came." He came for this. He came to heal you and me from the pain caused by our weaknesses and others. He offers his grace endlessly and reminds us to be gentle with ourselves. I forgive myself and allow grace from Christ to take away my guilt. I know that He loves me perfectly, and that it is okay to have weaknesses. As I do my best, He makes up the rest.
It's important to remember to apply God's grace to ourselves. Are you holding anything against yourself? Christ can help you heal it. That is why He came.
My throat has been weakened recently from lots of yelling and anger at my children. I always struggle with this, but as of late I have been doing pretty consistently worse than usual. There are usually a lot more "up days" than there have been for a while. This is one of my struggles and weaknesses in life. When I tuned in to Heavenly Father, then came back into myself, I felt spiritual/emotional weakness in my throat and my heart.
Heavenly Father let me know that I indeed had weakened my 5th chakra/ throat area from communicating with a lot of anger and yelling. This was so weakening for multiple reasons. For one, anger is anger, and it is a harsh emotion to transfer consistently, and two, it wasn't MY voice. I was communicating the ugly voice of entities in and around me, rather than my own. MY voice would never want to treat my children like that. I love them unconditionally. (At least I think, feel, and hope I do!)
But beyond those two reasons for the weakened immune system and susceptibility in my throat and heart, was another negative emotion. Guilt. I was told I needed to forgive myself for these behaviors. Even as I TRIED to forgive myself, my thoughts said, "but it's NOT okay." I feel so sad -often- that I would ever treat my children like that. I WANT to be a perfect mom. I DON'T WANT to ever hurt them or sadden their spirits. Heavenly Father had to remind me what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is not saying, what you did was okay. Forgiveness is saying, I understand that you have weaknesses, that you are mortal and imperfect, and that you are here to learn and work on those things. I forgive you because I have weaknesses too, and I know they are not easy to overcome. I am not meant to be perfect yet. I am meant to learn, one mistake at a time, to perfectly turn to Christ so that He can lift me.
I felt Heavenly Father say, "replace the guilt with grace." I felt a light pink cloud of comforting grace come in to comfort my physical and emotional body. As I handed my guilt to Christ, he offered me His grace and whispered, "this is why I came." He came for this. He came to heal you and me from the pain caused by our weaknesses and others. He offers his grace endlessly and reminds us to be gentle with ourselves. I forgive myself and allow grace from Christ to take away my guilt. I know that He loves me perfectly, and that it is okay to have weaknesses. As I do my best, He makes up the rest.
It's important to remember to apply God's grace to ourselves. Are you holding anything against yourself? Christ can help you heal it. That is why He came.
Monday, May 12, 2014
Ramblings on the 4th chakra
Well, it's about that time. A month and a half has passed and I again feel pulled to write on the next chakra, the 4th.
The 4th chakra is your heart center. It is "the center" in many ways. It is the center of your seven chakras, when you live from your heart you are more "centered," balanced and happy, and your heart connects heaven and earth, serving as the center between them. We are here on earth, in part, to learn about love in many different ways and forms. We have loved ones on the other side assisting us in this journey, and our mother and father in heaven love and adore us, their children. Love is what gives us the desire to unite as a human family and raise up to something higher, and to bring all of the loved ones we can with us.
Jesus Christ is the ultimate example of love for giving every ounce of his being, his life, his pain, his joy, and yes, his unconditional love to us, his very flawed brothers and sisters. He was the ultimate example of love when he healed the leper, caring more for the leper than for himself, and he was the ultimate example of love when he said, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone," and "forgive them Father for they know not what they do." The Lord, our brother, showed us through out his ministry on earth how to live with an open heart. Oh if we could only be taught by him how to keep our hearts so open despite being spit upon by life in various ways.
This is by no means an easy task. It is much easier to react to our emotional lives in an "eye for an eye" type of way. If someone is mad, you get mad back. This is why in several books they use the term, "the great leap," for when a person begins to live from their heart rather than the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd chakras. see note at bottom of post As a follower of Jesus Christ, you are asked to do your best to live with unconditional love, compassion, charity, and non-judgement. You are asked to live with an open heart and put off the natural man who says "an eye for an eye."
Your heart center is associated with your capacity to give and receive love and service. It is associated with your cardio vascular system, immune system, and endocrine system and color/frequency is green. If your heart center is blocked your emotions will be distorted. You may know someone loves you, but not be able to FEEL it. You may love your child, your spouse, your parent, your friend, but if your heart is hardened, or blocked, with anger, distrust, judgement, or any other emotion, you may not be able to feel it. Blocks on the heart, like blocks in any area of your life, rob you of a piece of the joy that is available to you.
It is so interesting how all of these emotional/spiritual things can show up in our physical bodies.
Foods and herbs that feed and cleanse your physical heart center body systems, will also help feed and cleanse trapped emotions from that region. We are such complex beings! If any of you have done much yoga (pranayama or asana) you may have experienced holding a pose and feeling unexpected emotions flood to the surface. Crazy right!? Well, when you physically open and breath light and life into a blocked area, you feel those emotions as they cleanse out. Cayenne pepper and garlic are powerful herbs for the 4th chakra. If you are working on cleansing your 4th chakra, that cleanse will be empowered by doing a blood cleanse. (Remember when you are doing cleanses to work from the bottom up. You don't want to do a blood cleanse just to have all of those toxins get backed up in the liver, bowel, or kidneys.) It is interesting to note that when your heart is open, your immune system is strong. If you are feeling down, depressed, lonely, and broken hearted, your immune system is weakened. That's scriptural too! (Anyone have a reference on that? I'm feelin lazy I think ;))
The scriptures talk about having a broken heart and a contrite spirit. A broken heart is an open heart. When your heart is broken, you pour out your soul to heaven. and the Lord can mold and shape you.
There is so, so much that could be said about every chakra. Feel welcome to ask me for more information if you wonder about something that I didn't include! I'm not much for taking my sweet time on reading, editing, and such. I hope this gives you something to ponder over and that it brings more awareness to you in moments when you feel your heart begin to harden. This is a big one! Times like these perfection seems SO far away! Thankfully, we don't have to be perfect on our own. We do it in and through Christ, or not at all.
[The lower chakras are typically more associated with the physical world (the world outside of you), while the upper chakras (beginning with the heart center) are more spiritual ("the world behind your eye"-to quote Carolynn Myss), although all chakras ARE associated things both spiritual and temporal. Here's an example: the 1st chakra relates largely to being grounded and feeling safe and taken care of in the PHYSICAL world, but even something that physical is also spiritual because it requires faith and trust in Heavenly Father to find a true sense of safety and peace that your needs will be met, thus connecting to both physical and spiritual aspects.]
The 4th chakra is your heart center. It is "the center" in many ways. It is the center of your seven chakras, when you live from your heart you are more "centered," balanced and happy, and your heart connects heaven and earth, serving as the center between them. We are here on earth, in part, to learn about love in many different ways and forms. We have loved ones on the other side assisting us in this journey, and our mother and father in heaven love and adore us, their children. Love is what gives us the desire to unite as a human family and raise up to something higher, and to bring all of the loved ones we can with us.
Jesus Christ is the ultimate example of love for giving every ounce of his being, his life, his pain, his joy, and yes, his unconditional love to us, his very flawed brothers and sisters. He was the ultimate example of love when he healed the leper, caring more for the leper than for himself, and he was the ultimate example of love when he said, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone," and "forgive them Father for they know not what they do." The Lord, our brother, showed us through out his ministry on earth how to live with an open heart. Oh if we could only be taught by him how to keep our hearts so open despite being spit upon by life in various ways.
This is by no means an easy task. It is much easier to react to our emotional lives in an "eye for an eye" type of way. If someone is mad, you get mad back. This is why in several books they use the term, "the great leap," for when a person begins to live from their heart rather than the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd chakras. see note at bottom of post As a follower of Jesus Christ, you are asked to do your best to live with unconditional love, compassion, charity, and non-judgement. You are asked to live with an open heart and put off the natural man who says "an eye for an eye."
Your heart center is associated with your capacity to give and receive love and service. It is associated with your cardio vascular system, immune system, and endocrine system and color/frequency is green. If your heart center is blocked your emotions will be distorted. You may know someone loves you, but not be able to FEEL it. You may love your child, your spouse, your parent, your friend, but if your heart is hardened, or blocked, with anger, distrust, judgement, or any other emotion, you may not be able to feel it. Blocks on the heart, like blocks in any area of your life, rob you of a piece of the joy that is available to you.
It is so interesting how all of these emotional/spiritual things can show up in our physical bodies.
Foods and herbs that feed and cleanse your physical heart center body systems, will also help feed and cleanse trapped emotions from that region. We are such complex beings! If any of you have done much yoga (pranayama or asana) you may have experienced holding a pose and feeling unexpected emotions flood to the surface. Crazy right!? Well, when you physically open and breath light and life into a blocked area, you feel those emotions as they cleanse out. Cayenne pepper and garlic are powerful herbs for the 4th chakra. If you are working on cleansing your 4th chakra, that cleanse will be empowered by doing a blood cleanse. (Remember when you are doing cleanses to work from the bottom up. You don't want to do a blood cleanse just to have all of those toxins get backed up in the liver, bowel, or kidneys.) It is interesting to note that when your heart is open, your immune system is strong. If you are feeling down, depressed, lonely, and broken hearted, your immune system is weakened. That's scriptural too! (Anyone have a reference on that? I'm feelin lazy I think ;))
The scriptures talk about having a broken heart and a contrite spirit. A broken heart is an open heart. When your heart is broken, you pour out your soul to heaven. and the Lord can mold and shape you.
There is so, so much that could be said about every chakra. Feel welcome to ask me for more information if you wonder about something that I didn't include! I'm not much for taking my sweet time on reading, editing, and such. I hope this gives you something to ponder over and that it brings more awareness to you in moments when you feel your heart begin to harden. This is a big one! Times like these perfection seems SO far away! Thankfully, we don't have to be perfect on our own. We do it in and through Christ, or not at all.
[The lower chakras are typically more associated with the physical world (the world outside of you), while the upper chakras (beginning with the heart center) are more spiritual ("the world behind your eye"-to quote Carolynn Myss), although all chakras ARE associated things both spiritual and temporal. Here's an example: the 1st chakra relates largely to being grounded and feeling safe and taken care of in the PHYSICAL world, but even something that physical is also spiritual because it requires faith and trust in Heavenly Father to find a true sense of safety and peace that your needs will be met, thus connecting to both physical and spiritual aspects.]
Monday, March 24, 2014
The 3rd Chakra
I hesitate to write. As more time passes since the previous posts on the 1st and 2nd chakras, I think of more and more things I should have included in those posts. There is just SO much information and I don't want to leave stuff out that could be helpful! Sigh. For now, I'll say what comes up--and if you have questions or want to talk something over-let me know! You guys are how I get motivated to write more! ;)
Okay....the third chakra is a big one. The color, or associated wave frequency, ;) is yellow. This energy center is located in your abdominal region and is associated physically with your stomach, gall bladder, kidneys, pancreas and liver. This means, problems with digestion, ulcers, gallstones, liver problems, and pancreatic problems are signs that your third chakra needs some extra attention.
Your third chakra deals with your view of your self, your self worth. The highest truth for your third chakra is "I honor myself." A more complete truth would be, "I am a child of God and I honor myself." That's loaded right! What does it mean to honor yourself? Well, it means that you #1 recognize and honor your BOUNDARIES with others, #2 do your best to live in accordance with your TRUE, deep down beliefs, #3 recognize that your worth is not based on how much you do, or do not accomplish, on your income, your body type or anything else, it is inherent in you-regardless of where you have been or what you have done, #4 you truly believe that you are worthy of love and worth something.
Looking further into #1, honoring your boundaries, the third chakra can take a big hit in destructive relationships. If you have someone you love, or associate with, that judges you, or makes you feel diminished-on purpose or not, those interactions are detrimental to your third chakra. If you are very attached to that person, you will have an etheric cord connecting you to them from your solar plexus (or third chakra). We have negative cords and positive cords. We want to cut the negative cords so that we take our power back in those relationships. If you know for example, that every time you talk to a person, they are always critical of you and your choices, you want to cut the negative cords between you. (More on that shortly.) Doing this will help empower you to lovingly set up boundaries with them, and to not take their criticism to your gut should it arise again. It will also make it easier for you to stand up to them and kindly express the way you need to be treated.
#2-When we believe something is wrong, and do it anyway, it wears away at our feelings of self worth. It takes away the spiritual power that the Lord wants for his spiritual warriors. This applies mostly when we WANT to sin, not so much when we are living the best we can. It can however still effect your self worth if you allow your natural human weaknesses to take you into negative cycles of harsh self judgement. Our weaknesses are to help us stay humble, to help us recognize continually our dependence on the Lord and his atonement, NOT for us to beat ourselves up for our imperfections. Learning to access the power of the atonement daily will help empower your third chakra so that you can shine your light for the Lord.
#3-When you base your worth on anything external, it is false. When you tie something in your life to your self worth, and it goes wrong, you may feel sick to your stomach. If you placed your worth on how much money you can make, and you loose your job, you will feel worthless, and again, likely ill. If you place your worth on how physically cute or handsome you are, when you age, have an accident, or gain weight, your self worth will take a blow. I probably say this in every chakra post, but our bodies often give us signals as a wake up call for us to contact the spiritual physician. We are children of God, and our worth is inherent. When we do not feel of worth, we often won't receive feelings of unconditional love from our father in heaven, or anyone else.
#4-This has already been touched on, but when YOU believe that you have inherent worth, and that you deserve wonderful things, your light can shine brighter and it allows the Lord to bless you more. The Lord cannot bless you beyond that which you are ready to receive. Sometimes we do not really believe we are worth certain blessings (does that make sense?). You can even receive a Priesthood blessing and keep some of the blessings from happening from your disbelief. Disbelief in yourself can be a lack of faith, because YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD, and he has a tremendous work for you which you are completely capable and worthy of with His companionship. Any feelings about yourself that are less than that, are LIES, and will hurt your 3rd chakra.
There are many lies that we believe about ourselves that hurt our self worth and effect us here, in the third chakra. We may believe that we're not as smart, funny, capable, worthy of love, or blessings as someone else. Those things are not true. We, of course, cannot compare ourselves to others. Doing that is not honoring the beautiful, worthy, unique being that is us! (I was totally doing this, like last week, so don't think I apply all of this perfectly. But knowledge can really be a tool to help you realign with the highest truth when you recognize that your thoughts or feelings are off track..)
Hopefully that gives you a little bit of helpful information! I'm already thinking of more things that are important to the 3rd chakra, like forgiving ourselves. There is always so much I can say, but hopefully you have enough of a knowledge base that you will realize some more things that tie in. As always, if you have any specific questions or issues that you want to talk with my about, you are welcome to message me privately on facebook or post a question on here. As I mentioned before, I basically am only motivated to post when I have friends asking me questions. :)
We're all in this together! The Lord wants us to work through these things and claim the powerful blessings that he has for us so that we can be a light to the world! These are the last days, and he needs us all! The work that you do with him to heal yourself, is a sacred and important work.
Blesssings :)
Amber
Cutting negative cords: Do you think I'm crazy yet? Ok, you can do this with a specific person in mind, or you can do it in a general way and just include "all negative cords." In a prayer, get yourself feeling really connected to Heavenly Father, then let Him know that you are ready to cut all negative cords (or just the cords between you and the person you're thinking of) then in your minds eye envision, and maybe even feel, the cords dropping. After you feel that part has been done, ask for the remaining holes (on you and on the other people) to be filled with Christ's love and light. Remember you are only cutting negative cords. This does not mean you are cutting your entire attachment to this person, if you love them and want them in your life, you are just taking away the avenue on which you receive their judgement.
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
The Second Chakra
Sorry this post was so slow comin! I haven't forgotten about it! Here's some info on the second chakra:
The physical location of the second chakra is just below the navel. The associated color or vibration is orange.
The second chakra is associated with relationships with others and how you see yourself in relation to others, sexuality, finances, fear and guilt. Creativity is also sometimes linked to the second chakra.
Some signs that your second chakra is out of whack would be having skewed feelings of your own sexuality, having a sexually skewed view of others, always comparing yourself to others and not feeling good enough or feeling better than others, buried sexual trauma, fear, guilt, blame, anger, or fear about finances.
The reproductive organs, bowels, and bladder will physically manifest imbalance in the second chakra. Remember that your body and your spirit work together to help you heal. If you are having symptoms in one of these areas, you can start healing right now. Bringing awareness to the underlying issue will help you start to redefine yourself. You can begin to consciously forgive and consciously practice handing your anger and blame (or whatever your particular emotion might be) over to Christ. I imagine taking the feelings and putting them all in a red box and handing them to him. I then imagine that he transmutes it to white light. One other way I visualize it is with the residue of those emotions falling off me onto the ground and then again, Christ transmuting that to light. Whatever way that you find works for you, know that he suffered for our pain, and not only our sins and that he WILL take it and he will heal the space that is left in it's place.
Forgiveness is a tremendous blessing that will create so much more space for love and joy.
"Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" 22Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." -Matthew 18:21-22
The highest truth for the second chakra is "love one another." When we fully emotionally love and respect others, give others the benefit of the doubt, trust that the Lord will bless us financially as we love, serve, and obey His voice, respect ourselves in relation to others, and forgive those that may have hurt us, our second chakra will be balanced.
The physical location of the second chakra is just below the navel. The associated color or vibration is orange.
The second chakra is associated with relationships with others and how you see yourself in relation to others, sexuality, finances, fear and guilt. Creativity is also sometimes linked to the second chakra.
Some signs that your second chakra is out of whack would be having skewed feelings of your own sexuality, having a sexually skewed view of others, always comparing yourself to others and not feeling good enough or feeling better than others, buried sexual trauma, fear, guilt, blame, anger, or fear about finances.
The reproductive organs, bowels, and bladder will physically manifest imbalance in the second chakra. Remember that your body and your spirit work together to help you heal. If you are having symptoms in one of these areas, you can start healing right now. Bringing awareness to the underlying issue will help you start to redefine yourself. You can begin to consciously forgive and consciously practice handing your anger and blame (or whatever your particular emotion might be) over to Christ. I imagine taking the feelings and putting them all in a red box and handing them to him. I then imagine that he transmutes it to white light. One other way I visualize it is with the residue of those emotions falling off me onto the ground and then again, Christ transmuting that to light. Whatever way that you find works for you, know that he suffered for our pain, and not only our sins and that he WILL take it and he will heal the space that is left in it's place.
Forgiveness is a tremendous blessing that will create so much more space for love and joy.
"Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" 22Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." -Matthew 18:21-22
The highest truth for the second chakra is "love one another." When we fully emotionally love and respect others, give others the benefit of the doubt, trust that the Lord will bless us financially as we love, serve, and obey His voice, respect ourselves in relation to others, and forgive those that may have hurt us, our second chakra will be balanced.
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